Ever wondered why you feel so uncomfortable at a certain time, times where you want to do something or have that feeling, yet something is just making you uneasy about it...
This feeling known as cognitive dissonance is when a person holds at least two ideas or feelings at the same time, thus causing this uncomfortable feeling.
An example to this is intimate relationships. One partner feels happy and in love, yet at the same time feels spending to much time and being to close physically with the partner makes him/her uneasy.
The implications of this is, and not only restricted to this, would be speedy replies on a mobile phone, and then no or very late replies which are accompanied most of the times with an explanation of a task they started with, prior to your communication to them. Their behavior is a kind of trend, and the intervals between interacting with the partner and being repelled by the partner thus also follows a pattern.
Another example is, "I like you so much", to " I miss you so much", then it changes (above mentioned trend) to "I'm so tired", and I'm so busy". If you wonder now whats wrong with the last two quotes, try looking at the "I's". First person expressions are more direct and used to affirm oneself. With that the person can succeed in being alone (the other feeling) for some time, and then feel too lonely again and initiate discussions with the partner. A cycle....
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